It is better to give than to receive. And that makes receiving hard.

It is better to give than to receive. And with that wonderful adage is the awkward truth that to receive is hard. This cannot be truer than it is for people with a long-term condition like chronic illness or disability. I recently presented at a caregiver conference sponsored by the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society, The Family Caregiver Alliance, and UCSF where one man has clocked in eight years and counting to care for his loved one with cancer. In such a circumstance, we have to…

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UCSF Panel Presentation April 10, 2015

It was a lovely night with author Barbara Kivowitz, author of in Sickness and in Health, and Christina Irving of the Family Caregiver Alliance. The most moving part, as always, is when the audience asks questions. About how to prepare for death when your loved one doesn’t admit to dying. About how to respond to people’s pat comments like “anyone of us can get hit by a bus.” And the burden and opportunity in asking for help. Of course, we did a Gesture Wall. Lovely time. xoxox…

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Empathy Bootcamp UCSF Oncology Staff April 9th

Empathy Bootcamp for UCSF oncology team. Some of their comments: “This was a phenomenal course. I would recommend this to anyone who deals with the public in their jobs or anyone wanting to expand their world views. I will be/ I am a better person for this experience” “I had a GREAT experience with this workshop. I’ve learned so much about myself.” “I loved every part of this class! I feel so much more confident to deal with difficult situations.” “This course allowed us to…

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Empathy Bootcamp UCSF Oncology Staff April 9th

Empathy Bootcamp for UCSF oncology team. Some of their comments: “This was a phenomenal course. I would recommend this to anyone who deals with the public in their jobs or anyone wanting to expand their world views. I will be/ I am a better person for this experience” “I had a GREAT experience with this workshop. I’ve learned so much about myself.” “I loved every part of this class! I feel so much more confident to deal with difficult situations.” “This course allowed us to…

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You don’t have to be an extrovert to reveal your empathy

So proud to have a guest post from Empathy Bootcamp participant and HEO board member Dr. Amy D’Andrade What’s that like for you? I recently attended HEO’s pilot ‘Empathy Bootcamp.” Having been a part of HEO since its inception, I figured I mostly knew the material that would be covered. I’ve browsed the hundreds of comments and interviews that Kelsey gathered over years of talking to people experiencing different kinds of difficulties. I’ve read drafts of the chapters that will make up the book Kelsey…

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A child in mourning can find love here

A delightful resource on books for children on grief was presented by the incomparable online curator of heart and beauty called Brain Pickings. One book featured is about two animals that encounter a flat rabbit on the road and feel the need to commemorate the rabbit’s passing. They do so by making the flat rabbit into a kite that lifts upwards to the sky. I recently attended a beach memorial service for a young, wonderous woman who died of lung cancer. She was commemorated with a purple balloon with everyone’s thoughts…

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Share What Works: Outdoor Exhibit on Being There – Thursday, June 19th

Visit us in San Francisco at our first Share What Works: Outdoor Exhibit on Being There Thursday June 19, 2014. We’ll saturate the Bernal Heights neighborhood of San Francisco with a hundred posters and Gesture Cards filled out by local residents who describe deeds by neighbors, colleagues, and friends that got them through a rough time. It’s during the neighborhood’s local artwork. Merchants have out wine, nibbles, and lots of people stroll and make merry. Come visit us on the Thursday June 19th! The stroll…

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